Roberts, don't think pilots rude or arrogant because they use, what could be one of the most useful features in this this game, as a captain who pilots public matches and competitively I find it needed...
If I'm lucky to get a lobby with 220seconds left on the timer, I may not be lucky to have other pilots to use this time. That 220 seconds is often cut short by lower level players who will scream down their mics "Ready Up noobs!" And as the pilot, its my job to know firstly, what ships and loadouts my enemy have, including tools of the players on their ship, what ship my ally intends to take before I decide what ship and weapons I'm taking, then I need to pick that ship and make sure my crew have the tools I need while also making sure my ally has a loadout to make their lives easier too.. So I send the recommended loadouts, 8 times out of 10 in public matches, people decline the loadout, not because they find it rude, but because they think they know better, all the while I'm communicating with my ship and ally ship..
So I tell the people who decline the loadout why I need them to have the tools I recommended. If they accept, great I know we have the right tools..
In competitive matches, my team would always accept the loadouts I'd offer, if they needed it, but in competitive its not just making sure about having the right tools, it would be discussing with my co-pilots tactics, who would go where, who would do what, who would target who...
Oh another thing to keep in mind, in public matches, I will play with different people, many of which do not want to or can not because of language barriers communicate, language barrier players I find are happy to accept loadouts, leaving me with that 8 out of 10 players who think they know better... A gunner taking lochnager for Hwacha and claiming he's a pro gamer from league... An engineer who is taking pipe wrench extinguisher and chem.spray because he is petrified of fire, even if the enemy team has no weapons to deal fire damage, two guys who "only play gunner" because they are "ex military best shot bruh" or the guy who.thinks I'm an arsehole because I recommended him a set of tools he already has, but does not realise the ammo was different...If someone communicates with me, great, sometimes people like their tools in different order. (for example the ongoing spanner mallet, mallet spanner war)
The day before yesterday I offered a gunner a lumberjack loadout after he claimed he was the "best shot in the game" after 3 matches... And he starts saying the ammo he has are "Gud for any gun u nub pilot dnt no shit" I recommended tools for the engineers, while explaining to the gunner why the ammos I gave the gunner would make his job easier... Imagine my frustration after this, and this is such a common thing during sales... (Incidentally the round was lost because the gunner missed every shot except.three on the LJ)
Don't let people think you're one of the bad guys... If you are given a recommended loadout, firstly be thankful you have a pilot who is not just going to leave after first death, and will try to.communicate, because recommended loadouts themselves are a way of communicating, they show the crew five tools which will be needed in a second, which could take much longer to tell someone on mic, if you want to decline, just tell your pilot you will take the stuff needed but want to re-order it, chances are you'll end up in a funny spanner maller, mallet spanner debate